ITS NOT THE KIND OF WEDDING YOU HAVE THAT MATTERS. WHAT ABOUT THE QUALITY OF LIFE YOU WILL HAVE AFTER THE WEDDING?

I AM NOT MARRIED SO WHAT DO I KNOW?

A wedding gown costs N130,000 or more now and yet you still go ahead and buy it forgetting you will only wear it only once in your life. You ask him for the money and he feels he has no choice than to give it to you regardless of the fact that the has other things he needs to pay for in preparation for the wedding party.
But I'm not getting married so what do I know? You pay a makeup artist N150,000 for bridal makeup that you get to wear only for a day and don't care about how you had to task your man to squeeze out such an amount for just makeup as long as you look like Princess Jasmine on the wedding day.
But I'm not the one getting married so what do I care?
You've called all your relatives and friends to donate money so that you can afford a wedding venue that costs N1.5 million, a place you'll only rent for half a day by the way. But I'm not the one getting married so what do I know?

You pressure everyone into paying N30,000 each so that they can wear the same cloth to your wedding and you call it "asoebi", not minding if they can afford to or not. But I'm not the one wearing the asoebi so what do I care?

You've got all your family members running around and stressed out because you want a wedding ceremony. But I'm here chilling in my room so what do I care?

He had to go pay a lot of money to your people and buy more bags of rice than his entire family had consumed all his life, all in the name of "bride price" But I'm not the one marrying him so what do I know?
You will allow this young man who is struggling to make a living, who is working hard to make his dream a reality, who is living in a rented house to spend this much on an occasion that will only last few hours...
You make him spend so much on the wedding only to start living a life of debt afterwards...

Hey! Young Lady! Listen to me. If he does not own a house of his own and is still living with his parents or paying rent, then you will be a fool to let him spend a dime on a wedding ceremony.

If you think it's embarrassing not to have a big expensive wedding like your friends had, then you don't know what embarrassment is.

Allow me to define embarrassment in this context - embarrassment is when someone called a Landlord comes knocking on your door every year to collect his rent when you know you could have easily gotten your own house if you had bought a house instead of pressuring your husband into having such a wedding party; embarrassment is when his friends keeps looking for him to pay back the monies he borrowed from them so that he can have a high society wedding and show your people he has money and is capable of taking care of you...

But I'm still single so what do I know sef?
You will know the meaning of the word "regret" when after the wedding you're settled in and you want to finally start the business you've always had in mind, you ask him for money and he tells you he doesn't have it cause he is still trying to pay back all the money he borrowed to have the wedding you wanted... A newly married man told me this (true story). He also added that his wife said she regrets making him spend all that money cause she wanted a big glamorous wedding and now she cannot have her dream of running her own business cause of her foolishness.
But I'm single,so what can I possibly know?
It's not the kind of wedding you have that matters. What about the quality of life you will have after the wedding celebrations?