8 Clear Ways To Get Your Marriage Back On Track

1)LOVE GOD FIRST AND PLACE HIM IN THE CENTER OF YOUR MARRIAGE

Put God first in your marriage.  There is peace at the table of the Lord.  Seek him first, praise Him through the storm, and lay your weary heart in His almighty hands.  Before marriage, it was easy to serve your first love, Christ, or at least easier.  When two are married, you find, that the focus has now shifted to your spouse, serving him, pleasing her, kids are added to the mix and before long, you have found yourself lost in the wilderness.  You’re now in a place of despair, loneliness and anger and bitterness set in.  You blame one another for all of  the turmoil and begin to break each other down.  Stop now and forever hold your peace!
Take a deep breath, and begin again with serving your first love.  Give him your first moments of the day, and your last seconds of the night.  Pray to Him, nonstop, for your spouse and the things that are causing your marriage to boil over.  Instead of placing your expectations on your spouse, give them over to God.  Maybe God is looking for a change of heart within you.  Bring your life back to God and make things right with Him.  Grab your spouse and start making an enormous effort in praying together and reading the bible together.  Focus on family worship time and bring your family back to a place that is glorifying the Lord.

 

2)LOVE IS A CHOICE

When the two of you met, I have no doubt you ever had to choose love.  Those butterflies flying around in your bellies, the smiles on your faces that seemed planted there for a lifetime, the trust, the forgiveness and grace you showed one another, love was bubbling from the seams of your hearts.  Wait, what happened?  Life has, and the two of you are now working all of the time, and up with a new baby, and bills are pilling up and conflicts arise with friends, and life just seems so dim now.  You can barely stand to be around one another.  Where did that giddy feeling go?  It was, but a simple symptom of being “in love”.

 
Now that you’ve married, and the butterflies have gone south for the winter, things just don’t feel the same.  Now, comes the work. Work, you say?  Marriage is a lifetime of work and it will always be that way until death do you part.  It will come easier, but you have to choose to love your spouse.  Yup, even through the fighting.  The giddy feeling you once had is not the kind of love that will sustain a marriage and the glue that keeps it together.  The love that pushes through the storm and meets your spouse half way or even in some cases, goes the full length because your spouse is too weak to go on.  This, is the love that will keep your marriage strong.  This special, enduring love, will be more pleasing to your soul, than the giddiness you once shared together.

 

3)MAKE A MISSION STATEMENT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE

Sit down with your spouse and construct a statement of your expectations for one another and sign it together.  Coming together and being on the same page as to what each of you expect out of the marriage is important.  By creating a mission statement, you both are signing on the dotted line saying, essentially, that I hear you, and I value you, and I commit to you and to these things.  This statement will help you to bear good fruit with one another.  Here is an example of what your Mission Statement might look like:

E.G for mission statement

We shall never lose focus on our own individual walk with the Lord. This is a priority, we both must take very seriously. Doing so will not only keep us close in our walk with God but help us to be a better partner.
We shall never lose focus on our own individual walk with the Lord. This is a priority, we both must take very seriously. Doing so will not only keep us close in our walk with God but help us to be a better partner.

4)KEEP PARENTS AND FRIENDS OUT OF YOUR MARRIAGE

When the going get’s rough, go to wise counsel.  A Pastor and his wife are usually a great resource for a struggling marriage.  Seek Godly counsel and wisdom from a man and woman of God.  Taking your marital struggles to your golfing partner, or over coffee with your best friend, or running your spouse down to your mother is never, and I mean NEVER, fruitful to your marriage.  Find a go-to person that will help your marriage get back on the right path and not encourage you to take a wrong path.

 
5)KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE VOWS

This is very self-explanatory.  Don’t break your vow’s.  Hold true to them.  Don’t’ cause reason for your marriage to break down further by breaking more vows.  If a vow is broken, then a spouse will need to work hard at building trust with his or her partner again.  Don’t ever keep things from one another.  Be quick to tell the truth and ask for forgiveness.

6)COMMUNICATION IS KEY

The day can get very busy.  Before you know it, you’ve realized that the day has come and gone and you have barely communicated with your spouse.  Take time to ask one another about their day.  Talk about things that are important to your spouse and not what is important to you.  When both of you have had the time to listen to one another’s day, then now, you can share personal stories that you want to tell.  Remember, first your spouse, then you.  Try not to over do the conversations that are not key marriage builder with your partner

7)BE SLOW TO ANGER

This is a tough one for sure, but a very powerful tool when mastered in your marriage.  When your spouse upsets you, take a moment to cool down.  This is not the time to spew your every thought and feeling.  Come back to one another when things have cooled down.  When you act out in anger, you begin to break down the marriage.  This is a lot harder to recover from, than if you were to just let the dust settle and talking like two civil, loving adults who have made a lifelong commitment together at a later, less elevated time.

8)SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER

Now that the two of you are married, you’re still individuals with personal hopes and dreams.  Be sure to help each other grow by supporting who they long to become.  Encourage them to meet their goals in life and love them for the person they strive to be.

Marriage is beautiful and does not need to be something that is killing your joy and stealing your peace.  Marriage is also hard work.  The two of you must work hard together in reaching your goals as a couple.  Keep your marriage close to God.  Keep praying and praying and pray so more.  Never stop praying for your spouse.  Pray a prayer that scares the enemy so bad, that he’ll never want to come back to tempt your spouse.  He or she needs protection from whatever Satan has skillfully prepared for your spouse.

 

Don’t lose hope, and on the day’s that are so dark, remember to seek Jesus and rest in His grace as He helps you to fix your broken marriage.

You’ve got this, put on the ear muffs of God and stop listening to the lies Satan wishes you to believe about your spouse.  Start fighting the real enemy and stop fighting your spouse!